Note: This post may not be what you think it is going to be about. Only continue reading, if you are truly open to thinking about love in a new way.

How many times have us women heard the age old, “focus on yourself,” “live the life of your dreams,” “get busy with something in your own life and your man will show up,” “don’t worry, be happy,” “love yourself,” “and the like. I’ve heard this, especially recently 50,000 times, and so many times I continue to sit back and think about how much easier said then done those statements really are.

So, how do we, as women, really put ourselves first and focus on loving ourselves, making ourselves happy, and not attaching any of that to other things?

Well, I don’t know all the answers but I do know this…

This morning I woke up with the radical idea (it’s really not brain science nor is it anything new), but for the first time it really just clicked in mind. It clicked that we choose who we love and we choose who and what we focus on. Duh! We all know this, but for some reason it didn’t kick in until now.

So instead of choosing to focus on everyone and everything else, for once I said to hell with that (not in a selfish type of way), but in a self-love type of way. I declared it boldly: I choose to love me. I choose to date me. I choose to befriend me. I choose to do everything in my power to make sure I am happy at my core and I am healthy and whole as a woman. I choose to be so happy and so in love with myself that all people can’t help but notice how secure and satisfied I am in my own life doing my own thing on my own time. I choose to be so on point with my own life that I attract a man of the highest caliber on my level that is so amazing because he compliments (not completes) my swag.  

“Becoming acquainted with yourself is a price well worth paying for the love that will really address your needs.”- Daphne Rose Kingma

Again, it isn’t selfish. It is called: self-love. self-care. self-healing. self-surrender. self-gratitude. self-appreciation.

This is the secret to real, long lasting love. It is making a conscious choice to forever put yourself and your needs first.

There is something refreshing about choosing to be totally in love and concerned with the most important person in your life.

It shifts your mindset. It also shifts your vibe and the energy you bring to the table as a woman. All of a sudden you naturally start to glow and you naturally attract better men, more money, more opportunities, and the list continues to grow.

It is so amazing to get to this place because as women we naturally vibrate happiness and confidence at high levels when we reach this place in our life and even more so in our minds. When we decide to CHOOSE ourselves first, everything else runs smoother second.

Be so in love with yourself that the universe has no other option but to bring you good things, blessings, and prayers answered. You attract who and what you are. Attract the best by CHOOSING to be your best!

I Want To Know:

• What is the hardest part about choosing to focus only on you?
• Have you gotten to this place already or are you still working on getting here?
• What are some of your secrets to real, long lasting love?