Select Page Stop Caring What Other People Think: How Alicia Keys Reclaimed Her Confidence
She shares why she use to dress as a tom-boy when she first started her singing career. She reflects that it started back when she was in school and teachers favored her ,and as her body developed so did the level of male attention she received. She did not like feeling like she was different from her peers nor did she feel comfortable with men staring after her sexually.
So she changed herself. She took off the make-up. Turned to jeans and sneakers and hid herself. She found comfort in masking who she really was. Fast forward to her singing career, and she felt the same need to hide again.
When we were first introduced to her she had a masculine style and wore jeans and braids. She reflects, “I became comfortable hiding, my intelligence, my physical appearance, my truths, my thoughts, myself.”
She turned to a softer and more feminine look when she got tired of hearing rumors that she was “gay” and “hard” which she admits wasn’t her at all.
Not until recently did she have a revelation in which she realized, “OMG! Alicia!!! Why are you choosing to be that person?? That is so old and outdated!! STOP!!”
From this aha moment she boldly proclaimed in her post,
“You are allowed to be smart
You are allowed to be beautiful
You are allowed to be radical and have strong thoughts that others might not agree with
You are allowed to be tough
You are allowed to be sexy
You are allowed to be bold
You are allowed to be shapely
You are allowed to be kind
You are allowed to be yourself!!
And guess what!?? I can be all these things all at the same time. I don’t have to give up one to be the other.
I don’t have to hide anymore, I don’t have to pretend and hold back, I don’t have to think that my intelligence, beauty and sensuality are intimidating to others. Who cares??!!!
I don’t have to think my silliness, clumsiness, or hallmark card optimism, is something I can’t be proud of! Who cares????!!!!”
It takes courage to speak your truth. It’s takes even more courage to declare that enough is enough. It takes heart to be yourself and not give a damn what others think. But, if Alicia can do it. So can you.
Alicia’s revelation is one all women can learn from. As you continue to move through your day, do a selfie check:
- What, if anything, am I hiding about myself?
- What part of myself do I need to own?
- What do you need to give yourself permission to be and do?
- When is the last time you sat down to journal and deeply connect with yourself?
- What part of Alicia’s story resonated with me most?
- What revelations did you have?
- Which of the selfie check questions did you answer?
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