When there are parts of yourself that you hate, that means you have a SELF-LOVE problem and a SELF-AWARENESS struggle. It also means that you are probably doing self-destructive behaviors in place of this to make yourself feel better like:
  • Emotional eating
  • Constant busyness
  • Entertaining, mating, and relating with the wrong men
  • Shopping and dressing to the nines to cover up the TRUTH
  • Hopping from man to man
  • Trying to please everyone else but yourself
  • Fear of changing or trying new things
  • Judging your body and self harshly (even wearing wrong clothes for your body)
  • Comparing yourself to other women
  • Living in isolation and distancing yourself from others
  • Subjecting yourself to abuse from yourself or others
  • Not investing in yourself (self-care, me-time, gifts for self, new things, coaching, etc)
  • Attracting the same things over and over again
Any of these sound like they relate to you?
Your self-esteem is dependent solely on you, and what you choose over what you don’t choose. It is dependent on what lies at the heart of these self-destructive behaviors harming you day in and day out. These behaviors reflect the part(s) of yourself you are hiding, not acknowledging, and leaving to suffer.
Self-esteem shows up in all aspects of a woman’s life. It is reflected in her persona, her appearance, her personal style, her living space, her talk, her walk, her food choices, her body movements, her friendships, her relationships, the amount of money she makes, the difference she makes in the world, and so on.
The KEY to increase your self-esteem is to figure out who you are, why you are here, and what you are here to contribute.
I was born on November 21st at 10:23pm in room 1023 (it’s no coincidence that 10/23 is my father’s birthday perhaps that’s why my mom remembers these numbers so well!) to my parents in the state I currently still live in with my name that I was given at birth. No one else on this planet can say the same thing.
Here’s why…because GOD had an appointed time for me to come into this world, he appointed specific parents, and he appointed me a specific mission for being here. I am unique. I am one-of-a-kind. I  am divine. I am beautifully and wonderfully made because I was created on purpose with a purpose.
Therefore, how dare I ever try to compare myself to someone else or think I am unworthy when God made me whole, perfect, and complete? Love is what we are born with, fear is what we learn here.
And so it is…who are you? Fill in the blanks… I ____________________________ (your name) was born on ________________________ (your birthday) at ______________ (am/pm) at ________________________ hospital in __________________________________ (city/state) to _______________________ and ________________________________ (your parents name). I am here to _____________________________. I am here to contribute _________________________________ to the world.
If you are unclear about why you are here and what you are here to contribute then your lack of self esteem is stemming from a lack of clarity about who you really are which in turn effects your confidence.  Start by asking GOD about what is it he brought you into this world to do.
God makes no mistakes. Even if your parent considered an abortion or did not plan on your arrival. Perhaps your mother miscarried before or after you were born.  So why did God decide you should live and be brought into this world? Why did he think you worthy enough to be here and not those who didn’t make it? Why were you given a chance? Why did he want you here? You are here for a reason. Once you first recognize that you are here because you have a PURPOSE you can start to unveil what that purpose is. Now people may try to emulate you or imitate you, but they will never be you and you can even try to do the same, but you will never them. Increase your self-esteem by realizing you and only you can fulfill your purpose and live your life.
 Who you were meant to be has nothing to do with anyone else but YOU. So hating parts of yourself is a cover up for your FEAR of seeing the light that is really within you. Deep inside of you there is a confident and empowered woman who is unique, one-of-a-kind and worthy of love.
  • Are you going to let her shine?
  • Are you going to let her glow?
  • Are you going to sit back and let her go to waste?
  • Are you really going to let the woman God created wallow in pity, drown in insecurities, live in fear, and suffer in silence?
Or are you going to commit to becoming more SELF-AWARE and more SELF-LOVING so that you can go about the business of why you are here and fulfill your PURPOSE?
You decide. At the end of the day, you are HERE and if you can’t see the value in your life than no one else can do it for you. You have to want to change more than you want to stay the same.
Are You Ready?
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Comment Below: I Want to Know:
  • What is the hardest part about loving yourself wholeheartedly?
  • What type of clarity do you desire to receive?
  • Are you fulfilling your purpose? Why or why not?
  • Share: Did you fill in the blanks? What did you discover about yourself?