In recent news, Rachel Dolezal (pictured above) NAACP president of the Spokane chapter has been exposed as really being a caucasian woman who has posed a black woman for years. She went as far as marrying (later divorcing) a black man, darkening her skin, attending a Historically Black University (Howard to be exact), giving presentations on black culture, hair, and history, and even rocking black women hairstyles. I’m talking afros, twist outs, dread locks, box braids, and even throwing on a head scarf.

While I’m flattered that you love black women so much, and even tried to get your curl pattern on fleek like mine. But going against nature for the sake of fitting in is never a good idea.


As a result, girlfriend has recently been put on blast. Her parents admit that they are both white, and while their daughter always was fascinated with black cutlure they thought people should know the truth about their precious, yet estragned daughter.

While social media and tons of bloggers, journalist, and writers are setting the internet on fire about Ms. Rachel, and her lack of sensitivity to black people and black culture…

This post focuses on why it is NEVER a good idea to try to be a second rate version of someone else. Why its never okay to be so disconnected from your ownself that you take on the persona of someone else, let alone an entire culture that is not your own.

What Rachel’s story reveals is a woman who is suffering. She is experiecing an identity crisis. She is a woman who is afraid to face her true self. She is a woman who refuses to be her own damn self.

She, like many of us, don’t feel like we are “good enough” being who God created us to be. So girlfriend went ahead and created who she wanted to be…to the extreme.  In turn she lost herself. Lost her dignity. Lost her integrity. You will never win trying to be someone that you’re not.

So, girl you tried it….tried to be what you were not.

Her story will forever serve as a lesson and a reminder that when ever we try to go against who God truly created us to be, we will be exposed. We will be found out. We will have to deal with the consequences of our actions.

The consequence is beyond being ridiculed by the public because most women who are frauding are everyday people not necessarily presiding over an organization.

Fakeness is easily detected. Frauding can only go on for so long. Fiddling in circles that are not for you will be brought to the surface one way or another. Fudging your identity is grounds for an intervention.


At the heart of Rachel’s story is the story that women know all too well….

Inauthenticity is a silent cry for wholeness.

Pretending is a scream for self-love.

Trying too hard is a call for more confidence. 

Fitting in is a yearning for self-acceptance

Beyond the sit down talk about why Rachel was wrong for lying about who she really was..what she really needs is healing.

She needs to take out her extensions/braids/whatever natural do she is rocking this week, take off her make-up, leave her NAACP office, unplug her TV and disconnect from social media, and be alone.

She needs to be away from what others are saying about her, and she needs to for once take the time to really get to know who she really is. As Malcolm X once said to African Americans, “who taught you to hate yourself?” Rachel instead needs to answer this question for herself.

  • Who taught you to hate yourself?
  • Who are you really? (Beyond your make believe “blackness” and the “whiteness” you try so hard to run away from)
  • Why are you here in this world?
  • What are you here to contribute to this world?
  • Who or what do I need to forgive? Why? (including herself)
  • How can I use my “mess” as a “message” to empower others?

These questions are where she will regain her dignity, her divine purpose, and start her much needed deep healing.

These questions I also urge you to answer if you find yourself in a space and place where you have lost yourself, hate yourself, compare yourself to other women, struggle to truly believe in yourself and your power, or try to hard to fit in instead of being who you were created to be.

Rachel was wrong! While she may not be “transracial” (um…that doesn’t even exsist) or even black…that does not matter. Rachel is still a woman. She is a woman who needs to be empowered. I found my purpose in empowering and uplifting other women, and it is my great hope that Rachel and even you will find yours and use it for good in this world while still being your authentic self. After all, your true colors will always come to the light…so just be yourself!

Comment Below:

  • What is your take on Rachel taking on another cultural identity?
  • Do you think Rachel needs healing too?
  • What advice would you give Rachel about being yourself?