Every woman on this planet has felt that feeling deep down in her body. The “I am not enough. I am not adequate. I am not good enough. I am not smart enough. I am not talented enough. I am not skinny enough. I am not pretty enough, I am not as organized as her…so on and so forth” and the list continues on. We play the same tape over and over again. For some of us it becomes our mantra. Our daily morning affirmation and our night time routine where we hit replay of negative phrases, doubts, and worries.

The secret to stopping this negative self-talk once and for all is to be AWAKENED!


To be awakened is the process of becoming aware of something. To become aware is to shift. Shifting is the process of becoming. Becoming is a feminine process of healing, evolving, and growing into the woman you desire to be.


A woman will never ever feel like she is enough unless she does the inner work necessary to become the confident and empowered woman she was created to be.
In a recent interview, Oprah Winfrey said, “I live a fantastic life. My inner life is really intact. I live from the inside out. Everything that I have, I have because I let it be fueled by who I am….I work at staying awake.”

Your level of negative self-talk, the level of money you are currently making, your current occupation, your current relationship status, and so on are all in direction proportion to how AWAKE you are on the inside.

Your inner life is reflected on the outside in every area of your life. Your feelings of un-fulfillment are reflected in that 20 pound weight gain. Your belief that you are unworthy is reflected in the men who are/have cheated on you. Your thoughts that life is so hard are reflected in your day to day struggles. Your poverty mindset is reflected in your current bank account number. Your fear that you aren’t good enough is reflected in you not getting that job opportunity. Your constant doubting is reflecting in your dream job not being where you go to work every day.

You will never feel any level of progression into the next level in your life until you are willing to do the “consciousness work” as Oprah calls it that it requires for you to wholeheartedly love and believe in yourself and become the best you can be.

If you want to stop feeling like you are not enough, you are not worthy, you are not deserving, you are not valuable, than start by doing the INNER WORK it takes to truly live a fulfilling and purposeful life.

The inner work starts with you embracing your life as a teacher and yourself as a student. Embrace the idea that every person, place, and experience is here to guide you to become the woman you were divinely designed to be. Your failures and mistakes are stepping stones to your greatness, too.

At a moment when you feel like you are “not enough” pause and use my Three R Method for healing and evolving which works best when it is written down:


This method is most effective when working with me as an empowerment coach because it is personalized, affirmations are tailored to your needs, and you are guided to the inner work that is necessary for your individual growth and development. Here is a sneak peak from a former coaching client:

For example:
Lisa deeply desires to marry. All of her friends are getting married or are married. She will be nearing 35 in no time. She also wants children soon. However, all the men she dates flake on her or aren’t ready to settle down. Most nights she desires to be with a man, but other times she gives up. Constantly, she laments and tells herself, “I guess I will never get married. I will be single forever.”

 REFLECT: Lisa should “pause” and reflect on her relationship patterns, her fears, and feelings. She should also consider what lesson am I learning from this experience? What might the universe be trying to tell me through this season of singlehood? Am I ready to partner with a man? Do I know what it means to be a good wife? How can I become a better “me” so that when my husband does show up, I am ready for him?

REQUEST: Lisa should then write out a prayer or affirmation that affirms her desire clearly, concisely, and positively to be a wife and become the best woman she can be.

RELEASE: Lisa should then read this affirmation aloud to God, and then surrender any attachment to the outcome. Allow God and the universe to bring her what she desires knowing that what’s for her will always be for her and what’s not will harmoniously pass her by (such as the men who have came and went). She can’t lose anything that wasn’t divinely hers. Lisa will then have to remember at times when it may be hard on the journey that, God makes all things beautiful in HIS time and at the right divine time her husband will find her.
Now your turn! Select one area of your life that is particularly challenging for you right now. Go through this three step process!
Reply and let me know how it goes.

“I tried the three step method on my issues with my body. I have been insecure for years. I have always been insecure about my gap and my big thighs. I never like what I see when I look in the mirror, which is rare anyway. During our session, Taria walked me through the three steps, and she helped me craft an affirmation that blew my mind. I always thought it was a simple process to create a good affirmation, but it is actually an art to it. I broke into tears during the “releasing” part because I could truly feel it deep down. Something inside of me shifted that day, and I will be forever grateful.”  -Carla T., Maryland

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